Thursday, May 14, 2009

The problem with posting Jamie and Linda's story

I had a comment asking me to post Jamie and Linda's story. The problem with that is that they went through things no child should ever have to go through and I am hesitant to publish their heartache and pain for all of the world to see for basically forever. If anyone wants to hear it, just ask me in person and I would be more than happy to fill you in. I will give a very generic overview.

James and Linda were removed from their birth homes multiple times. They were also removed from several foster homes. Their last foster home was pretty great though. We recieved a call that there were twins that needed a home. They would likely be harder to place in a permanent home because they were a sibling group and quickly becoming older than people wanted to adopt. They were 2 and a half. We met them, fell in love and moved forward with the adoption.

We slowly moved them to our home and the adoption was finally finalized about a year later. It was a very hard year because you are constantly under a microscope. Social workers made surprise visits at all hours, background checks were ran, friends and family were interviewed and basically your personal life is wide open to scrutiny. Jake and I would joke that half the people we knew who had birth children would have never passed this test. Income requirements had to be met, parenting skills had to be evaluated, and there was always red tape to try and get through. It was exhausting. But finally we were before the judge and it was finalized. Our family began.